They Called You Difficult

A woman standing at the head of an empty boardroom table, hands flat on the wood

You were just the only one telling the truth.

“They called you difficult. You were just the only one telling the truth.”

Difficult is what they call you when you ask who is paying, when you want the credit in writing, when you say the note does not work and explain why. It is not a description of your temperament. It is a description of the inconvenience.

The writers who get called easy are not having better careers. They are having quieter ones. Being pleasant is free. Being clear costs you something, and it is the only thing that changes a deal.

So take the word for what it is. Somebody had to say the true thing in that room, and you did.

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